I felt like wearing my daughter’s hair accessory the other day, it was shiny and sparkly and ideally worn by a “nearly 3 year old” that has no sense of color coordination, wearing spots and stripes with a swimming costume over it is all the rage. Besides all of that, I wore it too work, and enjoyed the reflection of diamonds in my hair while in the sun, and seeing little disco balls against the wall every time I went outside.
Judgement ranged from its pretty, to it must be your daughters, or just stares that makes you wonder if there is a piece of carrot in my hair from lunch. To be honest this has put a slight damper on my sparkly day and made me reel in the need to wear my kids stuff, even though it shouldn’t matter as she said I look like a princess.
We all have secret desires, even its wearing a wonder woman costume underneath our grown up one, but don’t do it because of other peoples judgement. We wont go jump on the trampoline with our kids in a park for fear of what people will think if they see a grown person let all their wobbly parts wobble for your child’s entertainment and your own (who doesn’t miss being a kid), roll on the grass and wear silly clothes cos your kids decided that is what you should wear. We dampen their spirits by telling them its not OK to be who you are because of what other people might think, because we are not OK with who we are.
There are boundaries in terms of respecting our elders and common courtesy and plain old manners, but why kill all the fun stuff while they are small. Their sense of adventure will eventually dampen down once the teenage years come and school, but why change who they are trying to become and who you secretly wish you were.
1 Samuel 16:7 ESV
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”
If the Lord can see past our outside quirks, why is it so hard for us not to do the same. Why look funny at the person doing something unusual or what normal society thinks is acceptable or not, why judge if they are doing something they like and enjoy doing it but its not in your range of acceptability in your opinion.
I am going to let my daughter do my nails tomorrow, it might be funny colors and more on my skin than my nails but I am going to work it like a model cos she did and is happy to have her handy work modeled. She made mommies nails pretty and had fun doing it.
I wish you all a be yourself day! You are fearfully wonderfully made, quirks and all.